This will be a genuine piece. As serious as it will ever get, in light of the fact that turning into a parent ought to make you tremble a bit.
Child rearing is no joke. It is a heap of obligations and a torrential slide of responsibilities. Your first year as a parent will be the most joyous time of your life as a couple, as well as reinforcing the existence of hell on earth
During the first year of Parenthood…
1. You will inevitably miss some moments.
To begin with the self-evident. Despite the fact that you will be a guardian for whatever is left of your life, as long as you live, you will be missing moments with your child and see everything as a milestone. You will want to re-live all these moments that have passed you by as your baby grows, but there are so many more exciting moments. Grasp it with all that you have and anticipate the majority without future moments.
2. The child will drive you insane.
In a decent manner! You will be covered with new sentiments of adoration and love. This will be like falling in love all over again and you and your partner will be jealous of each other’s mutual obsession over this child you must share.
3. You will cry because you want to sleep.
Take naps now, take naps when you don’t want naps, take naps when you should sleep/eat/drink. When you get sick of this regime, sit down and draft a new one with your partner. Make a routine with equal Mom and Dad responsibilities and a fair routine. That’s why you got married, after all. Anybody will tell you this isn’t going to be a one man job.
4. There will come a time when you just want to give up, and not necessarily see your baby as an angel.
There will come a point when you will say “I am sick of this sh**.” Literally and metaphorically. This will not make you a bad parents, it’s completely fine and is not a crime. That is precisely why you will need all hands on deck; your close and extended family members, long lost friends, acquaintances and maybe even colleagues to help you sub in during desperate times of need.
5. You will learn to be a ninja
Without any previous training, you will do backflips and tricks that you never imagined yourself doing. These are the superpowers that come with the intense responsibility of raising a baby. You will learn to walk on air and dance with no limbs and sing without notes. You will learn all the tricks in the book, and they will come to you naturally.
6. You will mess up.
There is no way you’re going to know it all despite your impressive collection of “How To Be A Good Parent” books. You will fail at changing diapers, and fail at comforting your child and fail at being a good parent 24/7. But what should soothe you is that all of those things will be temporary and you will learn with time.
7. Your patience will be tested to the limits
This is debatable. My mother says that after just the first year, this will not happen. Your infatuation with this being will be infinite and for life. That being said, all kids are different. Some are chill for instance, I entertained myself wherever I was placed, and some are plain nutcases.
8. You will be amazed at how quickly their brain develops and begins to form a personality
You will become a scientist in disguise. Keep a notepad nearby because you’ll be amazed at what this union of cells from the both of you is capable of, and whose traits it takes after.
9. You might not start out with that motherly instinct
I will not go into the details from a biological perspective as it will bore you, but at childbirth every woman is supposed to release chemicals that make her bond to her child. Like I’ve mentioned, not everyone that is touched by this gift. My mother was a protective hawk. She did not want her babies to be handled by anyone other than herself.
10. Your $ex life will suffer
Don’t worry, the dry spell will only last as long as you let it. Your priorities will shift, and your child will become your new life. How you and your partner handle this situation is up to you and too personal for me to advise you on.
11. Every day will be new and exciting
That is a promise. No day will be the same and you’ll thank heavens for it. Babies change so quickly in the first year that you will weep tears of sadness when he/she is too heavy to be in your arms 24/7. Be prepared to grow with your child.
Your responsibility to the human race is to build a little girl or boy into more than just that. So make them visionaries.
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