Hello, smart and independent ladies. We live in the coolest feminist era when we, girls, are free to do anything we want...But, is that true?
There are no limit for ‘when’ and ‘how’. We are totally progressive and socialized. We take control over our lives and try to keep control of everything around us. We are progressive and have many habits form based on our independent lifestyle.
Our lives are full. We are constantly prepared for new open doors and life qualities. Plans mean the world to us. We have no less than five devices, the stylish personal organizers full of notes and sleep next to our laptops. Our dads are proud of us; our mothers tell us we are too skinny (by the way, it sounds like a compliment for us because it means we are in good shape).
We are always caught up with the latest trend, our style is unique and thought out to the finest details. We’ve already tried all kinds of fitness. We’re in love with yoga. People notice us at pottery classes, Pilates weekends, psychological painting and other unusual and interesting activities. We call a CEO our primary passion and proud to be so freethinking individuals.
On the other hand, each and every time you have the fourth or even the fifth date you go spooky with a thought ‘He attempts my precious freedom. He wants to kill my personality.’ That night you have a ghastly dream of you wearing a torn robe with no manicure, but with the worst hairdo, cooking something unhealthy with gluten. It’s the kind of challenge every independent person faces eventually. Our number one need is autonomy. We need it being ‘in’ and ‘out’ of relationships. Believe me that preserving some of your independence only gives your relationship more longevity, strength, and spontaneity. There are seven ideas to navigate your relationships in the right way and stay self-reliant without losing sight of yourself.
1. Don’t be afraid to let him lead
I'm almost certain you would prefer not to see a loner alongside you. The gentleman you'll go with to the second date ought to be the person who has a life plan, who is equipped for settling on choices and acts self-assuredly both to begin his own company and to book his vacation. But then you’re reminded of your creeds of gender equality. Please bring up some exceptions to your life – do not take charge and let him lead. Letting a guy lead doesn’t mean you have to take a seat and do not talk Stay independent, be the best version of yourself, but make him feel his power. Relax and let yourself enjoy womanhood. Finally.
2. Let him pay for a meal
He presumably prefers your bossy behavior at first or just appears to ignore it. Later on, he will see all your 'dark horse' hickeys. It makes him risky. He needs to win this game.He wants to show you off his authority, his inner values and power. It’s not about his financial abilities. It’s about his wish to make an out-of-date gesture that still works. Do him a favor. He won’t ever think you want to use him or spend all his money ordering the finest lobster. If you let him pay, he just takes it as a good passage. Knowing you, he won’t ever take it the wrong way.
3. Know the fine line between ‘being bossy’ and ‘being a witch’
It's most likely the main reason modern women can’t commit to a relationship. I realize that you may think basically nobody is talented enough to give pieces of advice and write ‘how to’ relationship manuals. However, unfortunately, I am not 16 anymore. I am just sharing my experience. In case you don’t want to be a friend with benefits, you need to minimize your position of being bossy because it transforms into the ‘witсh behavior’ off the radar. They like to see us bossy and smart, but no guy will want to stay in a relationship with a drama queen and the bitchy chick. Remember it’s up to you how far you can go with it.
4. Turn off the sarcasm
It's actual, sarcasm is a natural segment of your identity. Your jokes and wry expressions help you to be more open and easygoing to converse with. Your friends and colleagues like your funny bone, and it motivates you to stay successfully sharp. Guys like when we’re messing with them. At first, they don’t take our playful behavior too harsh and take the jokes throwing them back. Most often, men even fall in love with this fun they get from us. But later on when you take your lovey-dovey affair to the next level we call relationships, your irony can play a bad trick on you. The irony is an art; if you can’t use it correctly, don’t use it at all. Even one careless word can change his attitude towards you. You can always laugh at yourself and habits, but it’s too risky when you begin laughing at his qualities. It makes him aggressive and angry.
5. Learn to take a compliment
There is something in our mentality that can't see compliments. We generally tend to believe that a man who says something positive to us is presumably lying, feeling frustrated about us or attempting to harvest a few advantages from us. A compliment is a gift from one side of a relationship to another. Instead of tearing down the bonds you just started, you should strengthen them. So please take a compliment with a charming smile.
6. Act Excited
The main reason a man gets lethargic is his lady. Recollect that you're 'the train' of your couple. Today is the greatest day to change yourself into the individual he will pursue for whatever is left of his life. Keep yourself and him out of the comfort zone. Try something new and don’t go to the same places. Together you can go far. The chemistry between you guys will give you both enough skills and courage to do everything. Make sure he realizes how desirable you are. Don’t stay on his back and act. Stays inspired, fantasize and dare to offer him the most unbelievable ideas.
7. Be emotional
Regardless of how warmed your $ex is or how engaging you look each and every date, having no enthusiastic closeness, implies never being cheerful. Try not to falter to let him know the amount you miss him. Send him pure messages to express your sentiments and feelings. Use warm words and catchy phrases. He needs to be sure you are emotionally next to him. He needs your power and energy. The way you express it determines how deep his feelings will be. There is nothing better for a guy than to know your femininity, tenderness and infirmity belongs to him only. He is the one and only who deserves to see how a sweet, strong and independent woman can be.
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